Lets Talk About Sex Baby

Oh baby! The Elephant in the room...on your pew and in the choir stand *drum roll* SEX!

"We live in an age in which many people who claim to be "Christian" think that holiness and godliness are optional choices - available for those who want to be "super-spiritual," but not needed by people who want to be just "normal Christians." They may say that they "shouldn't" sin, but it doesn't bother them much when they do - at least not enough to cause them to do anything about it. The word "repentance" is not really a part of their vocabulary. Neither is the "fear of God."  -Some person

 I don't even know where to begin this has been in draft for some months because of fear and because it soooooo controversial. I myself have struggled with sex before marriage (fornication) being that I had a child out of wedlock.

SEX! EVERYBODY is doing it even Christians and then using the "you're only human" excuse, if they even use an excuse at all. Like Ima keep it extra real and some may not like it but the truth is....*turn me up sound man* as good as it may feel, sex before marriage is a sin and God has never been cool wit it. As a matter of fact He say in His Word: 

Ephesian 5:3 (NLT) Let there be no sexual immorality (the term fornication is used in KJV), impurity, or greed among you.Such sins have no place among God’s people (saints is used in KJV).  
* Ephesians 5:1-12 is the entire passage which should be read to fully get the jest of the verses*
...Ephesians 5:6 Don’t be fooled by those who try to excuse these sins, for the anger of God will fall on all who disobey him. 

Sooo in my skimming, reading, studying its pretty clear that Christians are not to engage sexual activities unless married so WHATS THE PROBLEM?
1. No one likes to be put on 1234 Front Street so often in The Church people try to hide their sin, they be on that creep creep tryna keep it on the *singing* dowwwwn low dowwwwn low.. Now you may tip around and keep folk out ya business OH but there is an All Seeing, All Knowing God whom we claim to love and sometimes obey. Everything done in the dark will come to light (Mark 4:22 NLT).
2. AIN'T NOBODY GOT TIME FOR THAT apparently because its not being talked about inside the four walls. We hear about getting our blessing and our season and taking back what the devil stole but what about sex, impatience, dealing wit temptation, stuff we need to get healed and delivered from. Pastors want pews to be filled and I feel they don't talk about sex and its effects on our spirit man because EVERYBODY (or so they think) is doing it and they don't want to lose members or offended anybody...thus pretty much cosigning the behavior. 
3. *singing* My minds telling me nooo but my bo-dyyyy, my bo-ddddy is telling me YESSSSSSSS -------> and I don't see nuthin wroooong <=== ok I think yall get my drift, our flesh aka human nature is a major problem. We simply wana do who what we want because it feels good sometimes.  
4. Trey Songz. <----- LOL. Ok I can NOT listen to...watch certain things cuz it get me all hot and bothered and I get to searching through my phone for easily found trouble. Anybody else? A show of hands please...Media is a stumbling block, SEX is everywhere even the cleaning commercials are sexy. Did anybody see the Magnum ice cream commercial? Its crazy oh and music videos...all inviting and thought provoking.
5. what problem...? "God know my heart"..."God ain't through wit me yet"..."Jesus is my homeboy". Jane Doe put it this way, "People try to make Jesus/God their 'homie' like He understands. Just becuase you're cool with it, doesn't mean He is! Duh!...Sex was made for the covenant of marriage not the promise of a friendship. We can't mock God's sacred institution by doing our own thing." [and there should be some evidence of Him working]
6. EVERYBODY is doing it. <----- wrong.FYI I know several people who are virgins and even some very successful celibate saints.

Im closing now, lol. So we have an issue...I've touched on a few problems, time to commint on a few solutions

So you "struggle" wit sex (or not), the temptation of it...How do you deal wit it? HELP!
"I pray hard! I try to avoid situations where my decision to be celibate gets questioned. If I find myself questioning 'Has these 3 yrs really been worth it?' or saying 'I know God forgives because He did last time I was here' then I've gone too far. Have there been times when I've 'been close'? Yes. It's not worth the guilt and disappointment of even being close. Mind you, I didn't have sex, but to get 'close' is just as bad in my opinion. Purity and holiness requires you to stay away all the way. It's hard, BUT possible. You have to know your boundaries. If you kiss and get all hot and bothered, maybe you shouldn't be kissing. It's nothing across the board. Just because you start lusting while holding hands, doesn't mean I do ya know? So you set your boundaries, make sure you're open about them, and stick to them." -Jane Doe

Dont walk where its slippery! If you know you shouldn't be at such n such house after a certain time HECK at ALL then don't be there <--- setting yourself up for the fail. I had a break in my celibacy and I had to confess my sin to God and ask for help because I knew me and I had to make up in my mind that I wasnt going to such n such house eva again...I'm praying to go a step further and cut such n such off alltogether because the relationship hinders my walk. If you are wit someone who doesnt want to perserve your purity and assist you in obeying God consider seeking God on whether they even belong in your life. Find accountability partners that will check you straight up. And look at who you are letting close to you. In 1 Corinthians 5:11 we are warned not even hang around believers who indulge in sexual sin! When I read that I was like WHOA.

Scripture isnt for reading like its a novel or for debates its to show us whats wrong in our lives and where we need help (2 Timothy 3:16 NLT). If you know you struggle in an area and know you need deliverance study that area. 1 Corithians 6:9-20 is a passge that speaks on avoiding sexual sin. Also Acts 15:20; 1 Corinthians 5:1; 6:13, 18; 10:8; 2 Corinthians 12:21; Galatians 5:19; Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5; 1 Thessalonians 4:3; Jude 7 speak on sexual immorality. Jane Doe points out that we have to understand why it grieves the heart of God. Sex is a sin just like lying, but the word says that it's a sin against our own body.

One great solution is to simply be obedient. EUREKA! People say they struggle with it...its no struggle you either gratify your flesh and sin or obey God's Word which is pretty clear. If you know better do better. You struggle when you put up a fight, if you yield to the Holy Spirit and deny your wants there will be no struggle.

Pray, Read, Obey