Heart-shaped Candi

To be loved, to be loved 

when you're between relationships it can be lonely and long at times...even longer when everyone else is getting engaged and you are still very much single. I should be happy when the people I love and have watched love each other get engaged but it makes me...

Feel like the last of the Mohicans!!!! 

Everybody married getting divorced and telling me it ain't worth it and it's not wat it's cracked up to be an don't believe the hype...its a lotta married folk mot wearing wedding bands making it hard to identify the marked...and alotta tipping around going on<----Kinda makes ya wana stay single

Stay single? 

And do what???play wit myself??? Oh uhn uhnnn

Sleep around wit Mr.RightNow??? oh uhn uhnnn

If u still wit me I told y'all about Mr.Goodbar and briefly put ya on my prototype. I'm a scary hopeful romantic. Scary because im still entrapped in this self made fortress that was designed to keep everyone out but yet I don't wana miss my mista mista when he comes...hopeful because I do believe that real love still exist and that there is someONE out there just for me. *sigh* 

I need the very thing that I lack and that is patience

I know I'm not ready yet mentally or emotionally for my Mr.Goodbar. I'm still wounded from my past and DO NOT want that to affect what me and him will have.  I'm just so vulnerable now it's ridiculous. I wrote my self a note that said don't settle out of loneliness but I find myself doing just that....I need to pull back.....

Back to God and myself , the only two that can really love me

Assume the Position Pt. 2

Hey my SWEET readers!!!! Ya'll are awesome by the way! Inty-how I recently went in on the men a lil bit about SOME of them not taking their rightful position in the circle of life SO ITS ONLY RIGHT that I address us ladies. I been seeing some real outta line type shenanigans going on and some that was neva in line to begin with.

Long story short: women be women and let a man be a man <=== BUT since that's NOT how i getz dowwwwnnnn ima do it ===> the looong waaaay (ayyyyy). Ima address these layyyyZ child bearers, Miss I Dont Need a Man fa Shhhhh and the what my cuzin D calls a fastbreak...and it will be addressed IN THAT ORDER!!! LOL I had to!!!

ATTN all who have given birth...it does not stop there. When you lay down to have children whether planned or unplanned once they hit this earth its all or should be alllll about them and you doing whats best for them ie. going to school, work SOMETHING! Sometimes you might not be able to go out and might have to cancel that date. FOR ME...Aiden Josiah Williams will have if that means me not having! STOP having ur babies looking like they belong on a milk carton and you all did up, fit pressed and hair laid UHN UHNN and no damn ma'am! STOP having ur kids around every man you date thinking erbody daddy...STOP dumping your child to your mom so you can be in the street, strap that car seat in and do what you need to do and have that baby in bed at A DECENT HOUR!!! If you have a daughter and you dressing like Diamond (yea Players Club Diamond)...dont be surprised down the road,  if you have a son don't be surprised when he bring Diamond home. Im going OFF!! Candi luh da kidz! If you use inappropriate langauge all the time in front of your babies when they cuss you out at two all you can do is have a seat and thank yourself!!! BE AN EXAMPLE! Tired of seeing this ratchet ahh kidz wit these ratchet ahh CHILD BEARERS that cant read but be hollering 2 Chainnnnnz STOP....and ASSUME THE POSITION as a mother.  OH and to you mothers that's still nursing GROWN MEN...STOP you cant be his women GO GET YOU A MAN

I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T do you know what that mean? It DOES NOT mean you don't need a man for shhhh and that you are to walk around with "get the hell heck away from me face? on all day so that you are unapproachable...STOP (I have been guilty of this...i invented that face). What it does mean is that you don't sit around and wait for your life to start once you have a man. If not married if you wana go out...go, you wana nice piece of jewelry...Zales Outlet baby!, DIY but understand that when a suitable MAN and not boy comes along you need to do what? ASSUME THE POSITION! If you can DIY allll the time the man will not feel as he is needed and will do what? Float, skate, slide, dip, bounce, exit stage left, chuck dem DUECES and find a woman that needs him because men want to be needed <-----you don't even have to pay me fa that I do this for you my Sweet Reader!!! Now if you wana kill your own bugs, wash your own car, flip through the yellow pages to get your car serviced, change your light bulbs, paint you whole house, do all the driving, mow your own lawn, and keep changing out them batteries to your toys et cetera et cetera FOR EVA, FA EVA EVA, then by all means Miss Independent *fist pump* Do you boo boo, do you.

Now Miss Hot Pants aka "the heaux" <=== dis individual is quite familiar wit assuming all types of day'yum positions! Might assume your if ya aint careful! I aint really got too much to say bout her except the fact that she make it hard for real woman nowadays. These heaux'z outchea given it up and being extremely generous to these negroes and got them thinking erbody easy....WRONG. They cooking and cleaning fa some male genitals <=== what kinda exchange rate is THAT...STOP and that's all ima say about the "her" cuz I don't wana give her too much recognition.

Extra: The Ratchet chick....just STOP ever-re-thang. STOP wearing bonnets in public GOT DAY'YUUM! STOP wit ur hair looking like a bag skittles. STOP wearing spandex and get you some spanx! STOP being loud and ghetto in public establishments. STOP posting fights on YouTube and world hip hop star that is not lady like which is why you ratcheeeeeeeeeet! STOP posting pics of you in the club shooting the middle finger...that is SO middle skoolish. Be a lady and ASSUME THE POSITION if possible.

Ladies if you want a real man you need to act like a real lady...you be the standard at least. If you wont date you, nobody will SOOOOO if you want to be treated like a woman ASSUME THE POSITION!!!!

Unnecessary Roughness

Soooo the hot topic is...was...wateva is the alleged Ocho Head butt. Apparently Chad Ochocinco Johnson was arrested for head butting his wife of 41days Evelyn Lozada from basketball wives who..wasn't a basketball wife...anyway yea sooooo. She found receipts of condom purchases and the next thang you know he gotta a mug shot AND was releaseed from the Dolphins whom he had just got picked up by cuz ain't nobody want his talking assets on they team.

Candi's ComMINTS
1.  Evelyn had sex wit him on the first day she met him...raw
2.She stated on the show that cheating came wit the territory of being wit a "player" so SHE told HIM that "as long as he buy condoms and let her know" she ok...*uhhhhhhhhh*
3. She, Evelyn...the now victim is know for throwing bottles in restaurants, waking over tables in public establishments, slapping people wit clutches and the list goes on....

So my sources ESPN! States that she confronted him at dinner about the condom purchase, argued all the way home, was head butted and then treated for "laceration" to the head<=== penalty on the offense...unnecessary roughness!!!!

Now uhhhhh is it me or are there some pieces and chunks missing from the story???? Lemme do my best to piece it ta-getha... Wit Ev's public violent record I believe she prolly hit him and he might have accidentally head butted her wit that watermelon head! OR  maybe they were both tussling or "wrassling" and because he know she gotta a motor mouth and talk hard and be fighting people on tv he thought she was down for that unnecessary roughness. And then he was prolly tryna have make up sex and was tryna be kinky, anybody thought about that? But she wasnt buying it...

 BUT UHMMMMM why She mad he purchased condoms like She told him to....but I guess he didn't tell her in advance and maybe that's why she was mad....but again she said she knew he was gone cheat AND NOT TO MENTION he never answered her questions on the show about him sleeping around wit his..."friends"<==== flag on the play!!!!!!

So why she mad again????

And she was mad at Jennifer for pressing charges on somebody that slapped her but ur lil baby head butt was just so unacceptable because its domestic violence???? Now so y'all dont get y'all panties in a bunch I don't condone "domestic violence" BUT if you hit a man don't always assume he wont hit you back...erbody wasn't raised right AND you really shouldn't put ur hands on anybody (Lawd 4give me for my past record....).

So THEY say a man hitting a women is different than a women hitting a women and I beg to day'yum differ! And that's the shhhhhhh I don't LIKE----> that double standard CRAP. Evelyn's violence against women is acceptable but when she fed wat she dish out she fold...oh ok, cool. It's disrespectful across the board the only difference is if a man hit you ....ya may jus die from impact but nevertheless violence is violence and that's how Candi feels about the matter.

I jus find it hard to believe that he headed butted her, like wat man does that!!! And was her wearing a helmet...laceration? If he wanted to be domestic he could have really "put the paws on her" or shook her real hard and left her wit shaken lady syndrome OR through her across the driveway....BUT he didn't so idk bout this one...and the filed divorce is another blog...

Assume the Position!

"A real woman should have a choice and an opinion, a real man should make a decision" @DaFrenchTakeOva

Alright alright alriiiiight so my gal posted this quote on the site im apparently addicted to...twitter (follow me @CandiRenee). I seent it and fell out cuz I been thinking this in my head and have had numerous discussions with my fellow Americans (ladies) on it.

If you want this too be short then...I say ninjas need to stop breastfeeding, take off they diaper and let they bawls hang GOT DANGIT!!!!! The End.

SYKE-A-BERRY

I'on do short men, short tweets, short text or short blogs!!

See where I'm from we like to take things niiiiiiiiice and eeeeeasy..,LOL ok fa real nah -----> lately I myself have been feeling as if these "nowaday ninjas" as I call em' don't do too much of nothing anymore (not all, its some goods ones out there in Alaska!): they don't wana ask ya out proper like, they want you to call them....chase them...cook for them...take them out...they wantcha to play house and I can't speak fa all women but-er-uh I AM #NBTL(not bout that life). 

been there 

done that

got the tshirt

keychain

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I feel like these nowaday ninjas want you to make all the decision and for me that is not cool. Like I don't wana chill at ur place all the time (park, museum, beach, riverwalk, desert...c'mon Son!). "well watchu wana do" ===> "is that not what I asked you???" <===dats the shhhh I be talk'n bout . I have become a bit aggressive, decisive I say because I have had to do all the decision making in past relationship and I just want for the men or men like characters that come in my life to ASSUME THE POSITION! Beware mothers and heaux's extremely generous females are hindrances to some taking there rightful position in the circle of life! Also u must readily identify who u dealing wit and stick and move accordingly

There are 3 types of men(that I will discuss briefly):
1. The Breast-feeder:  this is the momma's boy. B/c his mom does ever-re-thang for him he is looking 4 u 2 do the same and if you'on  know by now "u cant raise a grown man-child". He might appear clingy, whiny etc. Prepare him a gift basket with the following included: breast pads, bottles, pumps, diapers and wipes and send him on his way.

2. The Rebel: I hear bout a song that say these heaux extremely generous females be acting up and these niggas ninjas be letting em' WELL lemme put my thang down flip it and reverse it ===> these ninjas be acting up and these heaux's extremely generous females be letting em"!!!! The rebels have gotten so use to getting ever-re-thang handed to them that making a decision as a man is not even required. Dont give him no care package...or time...send him on to the enabling heaux extremely generous female so he can act up ova there...

3.The Potential: This guy understand what it means to make a decision as a man yet he understand that as a woman you are capable of doing so. He takes the time to get to know you and observe you so when it comes to it he can make a decision such as dates, gifts, places to spend time etc based off gathered information. he doesn't beat around the nut bush but if he wants to spend time with you...he will. If he wants to hang out...he will, and he will have an idea in mind as to where (perferrably not his crib to "watch a movie"). If he wants to take the "friendship" to the next level, he...will.
** having potential does not necessarily mean that the potential will be reached or that he is the one for you 

NOW LADIES, sistah, my sistah I know that we have been thru somethings and been listening to these independent woman songs and feel we can do any and everything and that may well be BUT you have got to give a man the opportunity to be a man....take off ur man pants and put on a nice dress, some baddd pumps and give him some options, be a team player...Just because a man wants to make the decision doesn't mean he wants to control you..i hope. So give him options, let him decide and then you yay or nay the decision and go back to the drawing board together if necessary *walks away from mirror*

Sooooo totally agree with afore mention quote...in case ya 4got and dnt wana scroll....

"A real woman should have a choice and an opinion, a real man should make a decision" @DaFrenchTakeOva

women be women and let a man be a man
men ASSUME THE POSITION!!!!!