Ima Chase That There!

"Ladies tip: If he doesn't pursue you, he doesn't want you. Simple" @bereolaesque <----follow him ladies AND gentz

Mannnn I could go on and on to the break of dawn on this one! Society tells women to get what they want...its a new day...be a go getter <-----DON'T DO IT. Geesh this mentality has mess up so many women including myself. You put yourself out there for what you think may be potential when that "potential" is potentially looking at more potential ya follow (@Candirenee, Hehehe)!

The times may have changed but THEE Word has not and its pretty helpful if we actually apply it as we are suppose to for those of us who profess Christianity, if you don't then.... Check it:

Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing,

And obtains favor from the Lord.

Proverbs 31:10 Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies

Now before i say anything...lemme just start off by saying ----> be nobodies fool ladies, you might get "pursued" for the pudding the cookies the candi ya know. Make sure you check motives and take things slow and ask questions. Been there, done that a few times and at this point in my life #SweetBrown AINT NOBODY GOT TIME FOR THAT
                                                                      Before for I get off topic lemme bring it BACK! HE that FINDETH a WIFE <--- underline that in your bibles...nope, circle it. I meeeeeean I can even really explain that indepth cuz its pretty plain and simple, well I can say THIS...it does NOT say she that findeth a husband. From what I see, hear, and in my opinion for men its all about the chase...not that you have to play supa hard to get ladies but it appears as tho' the male species tend to gravitate towards those who don't throw themselves out there. They may play wit Miss Hott Pants or Miss Loud Mouf for awhile but it will neva be serious and she ain't goin' to meet Ma Dukes!

Ok *takes off invisibilty cloak* there was this guy I was digging we'll call him Edward (lol). It appeared he liked me, he said he was "attracted to me" I was feeling him...found myself checking on him all the time and seeing when he was available and what-not. I realized that he neva asked me out other than to his place *uhm hmm* and I felt like if he wanted to spend time with me to actually get to know me he would have perhaps been doing what I was doing...taking the initiative. To make a long blog short I fell all the way back and sat my lil hips down because I really want that someOne to want me back (wrote a poem about it, check me out mindtofingertipz.blogspot.com <---- shameLESS plug) and you run the risk of that not being the case when you go chasing a man who never initiated the chase or pursued you as a man should.

So Candi is learning that society dont know shhhhh......poop about the chase and that I don't have to be aggressive. While my Mr.Goodbar is being perfected Ima live, laugh, love and prepare myself to be found. And as a matter of fact when He comes He won't even have to chase me, once our paths cross we will continue to walk together...

Candi's ComMINTS
*ladies allow a man to be a man and pursue you
*don't play hard to get, either accept or decline graciously
*if being pursued, show appreciation

The Heavyweight Champ

All my life I had to fight...
                                      ...my momma, my sister, a roommate, an ex, lies, accusations,      
                                       my thoughts (not all physical some verbal and emotional)

For awhile now I have been on defense at all times, quick to battle, retaliate, argue my point , get the last word. Because of my size I made sure my bark was big enough which became who I was and made people afraid to address me out of fear that would "go off". My motto 'who gone check me boo?' and kinda still is.

I do a WHOLELOTTA ranting on social media and of course people always have something to say about what I gotta say and how I shouldn't say this or that and-er-ruh I be ready to go off bout that , like how you gone TELL ME what to do on MY page?!? Like don't just get a life...get YOURS <------that what I be thinking shoooooot gone tellll me...

my mode of protection has always been to either cut you up (verbally) or cut you out (off my life) and quickly with no remorse...stick and move BUT that is NOT the way to go, yea I knew it but it gratified my flesh, my human nature (I been talking lot about self gratification lately...hmmm)

Sooooo Mama Gina pulled me to the side one day after church and read me my rights! Uhm  hmmm she checked me! Now what all was said AINT NUNYA BIT'NESS but the moral of the message was that I didn't have to fight all the time because the battle is the Lords. <------ i was amped to do better BUT instead i got consumed with life and didn't address the issue....i heard but I didn't do (getting convicted as I type)

We living in a cold cold wooooorld ( Cold World by @Lecrae) where everybody is out for themselves ya know Me , Myself, and I is all I got in the e-end ( the Beyonce song) NOT TRUE you got The True and Living God if you have accepted Christ as Lord (If you don't now him hit me up anonymously and I can introduce you, He is a cool dude!)

ANYHOW yesterday Bishop Vaughn McLaughlin of the Potters House International Minitries aka Potters House aka PHCF <---- shameLESS plug ---- > what was I saying...OH YEA,  Bishop was reading from 2 Chronicles 20 about Jehoshaphat (King J) lil sit'ch'ation. Long story short (do go read it tho.) King J had a WHOLEBUNCHA haters that was tryna come side ways on em,, He wasn't ready for that pressure so instead of popping off King J went to seek guidance from the Lord (verse 3 NKJV) ...Good ol' God told em "You ain't e'en gotta worry about that, chill..I gotcha!" (verse 17) SO King J listened, didn't even have to put on his gloves and God came thru on His word and defeated his opposition for him. <--- now thats my version, its just 30 good verses so i urge you to check it out or else ima put the paws on ya, lol

I said typed all that to say share that everytime we don't agree with someone, or someone has offended us whether justified or not...or we feel like we gotta defend ourselves from who knows what to chill and let the Lord do His thing. In my experience things get ugly qik when I clean shop but when I let God fight my battles He handles it in a way I never could

So to my fellow hot heads...LET THE HEAVYWEIGHT HANDLE YOUR LIGHTWEIGHT